Hello! Today, we’re going to explore an often-overlooked topic: the experience of dads in the postpartum period.

In a culture where the spotlight primarily shines on the mother and her birth experience, the emotional journey of partners and immediate family members often goes unaddressed. Yet, they too play an integral role in this transformative event and can experience their own unique challenges and traumas.

There is so much to cover on this topic, there is no way we could cover everything. So our aim with today’s post is to scratch the surface and shed some light on the profound impact of the postpartum period on dads and provide an array of insights, resources, and strategies to support their well-being during this pivotal time in their lives.

Here we go!

The unspoken emotional journey: what do dads actually go through?

During childbirth, the mother experiences a cascade of intense emotions, accompanied by adrenaline and endorphins, culminating in a profound sense of fulfillment and completion. However, for partners and family members observing from the sidelines, this closure is elusive.

Their emotional responses can range from overwhelming joy to anxiety, uncertainty, and even trauma. Even in cases where the birth unfolds smoothly and without complications, the weight of witnessing such a significant life event can deeply affect partners and family members in expected and unexpected ways. It is crucial to recognize their emotional journey and provide them with the space and support they need to process their experiences.

Paternal Postpartum Depression Disorder (PPDD)

It is widely known that postpartum depression can affect mothers, but it is also important to acknowledge that fathers can experience a form of postpartum depression as well, which is known as “Paternal Postpartum Depression Disorder (PPDD)”.

Men, often stereotypically viewed as task-oriented problem solvers, may find themselves in a position where they cannot actively solve the challenges inherent in childbirth. This sense of helplessness, coupled with sleep deprivation and the adjustments that come with being a new parent, can lead to the manifestation of PPDD symptoms.

These symptoms may include persistent fatigue, emotional distress, mood swings, irritability, withdrawal, and even thoughts of self-medication or excessive work to cope with the overwhelming changes. By recognizing the existence of PPDD, we can begin to destigmatize the issue and encourage fathers to seek the support they need.

Supporting dads in the postpartum weeks

In our society, the focus often centers solely on the birthing mother’s recovery and care of the newborn. Consequently, dads can feel neglected, as their physical and emotional well-being is sidelined.

Partners play a crucial role in creating an environment where dads feel supported and encouraged to express their concerns and struggles openly. Validating their experiences, offering understanding, and actively involving them in postpartum care can make a HUGE difference.

Allocating time for dads to rest, seeking outside assistance such as postpartum doulas or family members, and engaging in honest and empathetic conversations about their feelings can alleviate overwhelming burden and enhance the overall well-being of the entire family unit.

Understanding normal reactions to birth

It is vital to recognize that dads’ responses during the postpartum period are diverse and can be influenced by various factors. Similar to how moms respond, there really isn’t a cookie-cutter approach for how a dad “should” respond after going through childbirth with his partner.

Physical exhaustion and soreness are common symptoms in the initial days following childbirth. For fathers who are more involved with their partners’ births, it takes a lot of strength and energy to actively support the birth and help with things like counterpressure, among others.

Additionally, the ongoing fatigue that results from disrupted sleep patterns can take a toll on their mental and emotional state. Everyone responds differently to the changes that come with a new baby. And while some fathers may simply take things in stride while it seems like life as normal, others may experience additional stresses in the form of emotional or mental distress, to name a few.

As fathers strive to provide for their growing family, they may become hyper-focused on tasks, fixate on work and financial aspects, and even express concerns about limiting holiday expenses or social interactions. These reactions are normal responses to the significant life changes they are navigating. By fostering open communication and creating a non-judgmental space, partners and family members can play an instrumental role in supporting dads as they adjust to their new roles and responsibilities.

Finding support and resources for fathers

There are a lot of resources available to help support mothers during the postpartum period. (duh, right?)

While resources are predominantly available for mothers, dads need to know there are still resources for them too. The amount of those that are specifically tailored for dads is certainly less than for mothers, but they absolutely exist!

You just have to know where to look.

Additionally, seeking help should never be viewed as a sign of weakness or something that makes a dad “less of a man,” but rather should be recognized as a proactive step toward self-care and emotional well-being. Men are emotional beings just as much as women are.

Online platforms, books, forums, and professional counseling services can offer dads a safe space to express their feelings and concerns, share experiences, and gain insights from others who have navigated similar journeys. We will include links at the bottom of this post for some resources that can support dads during the postpartum period.

The historical context

Have you ever wondered why dads aren’t “normally” expected to be involved more with birth or why fathers’ emotional experiences after birth are only talked about in hushed voices on the rare occasion? Well, you might be interested to learn that the presence of men in the laboring room is actually a relatively modern phenomenon!

It wasn’t until around the 1970s when dads started to join moms in the laboring room. Historically, men just weren’t in the laboring room. Women would labor together and the men were more or less separate from the experience and they didn’t witness the birth.

Understanding this historical context really helps us to appreciate the significance of fathers’ presence as part of the birth experience and the potential impact their presence can have on their emotional well-being overall, but especially during the initial postpartum period. By acknowledging this shift, we can foster empathy and understanding for the unique challenges faced by dads in today’s childbirth environment.


The postpartum period is a transformative time for the entire family, including dads. Their experiences, emotions, and well-being deserve attention and support. By opening up dialogue, providing validation for their experience, and actively engaging in their journey, partners and family members can create an environment where dads feel seen, heard, and understood.

Through enhanced communication, seeking available resources, and fostering a culture of empathy, we can collectively work towards dismantling the societal norms that overlook the emotional needs of dads in the postpartum period.

Let’s work together to embrace a holistic approach to postpartum care, one that acknowledges the profound impact on all individuals involved and fosters a nurturing environment where everyone can thrive.

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